The Boxer(s)

(Note: Yes, this is a re-run. Leave me alone.)

When I was a sophomore in high school, I had a class with a girl who I will call Jen Carter. Jen was one grade above me in school, and six million grades above me in every other meaningful sense. In light of our differences in age, social standing, and progress up the ladder of puberty, I wasn’t ever going to have so much as a passing conversation with Jen, with two notable exceptions:

1. Situations that took place inside of my head. I am not ashamed to admit there were a few of these. Don’t worry: because at the age of 16 I was still 5 or 6 years away from hitting puberty, these daydreams were of a highly innocent nature. I don’t remember any one specific fantasy date between Jen and I, but if I had to guess, I’d say there was probably a lot of us walking down the beach and holding hands while she lamented the fact that she’d had to wade through so many handsome, popular, post-pubescent guys before finding me. And in these daydreams I was probably dressed like Magnum P.I. and she was probably dressed like Magnum’s beautiful but ill-fated wife Michelle.

2. Situations where Jen sat by me in class. Because of the mandatory alphabetical seating chart.

And so it was that Jen and I became . . .two people who sat next to each other in class. Jen was always nice to me to when I attempted to engage her. I’d occasionally turn around and say something to her along the lines of, “Man. This teacher is so lame.” To which she would reply, “Yeah. So lame.” And that would be that. One time I gave some sort of class presentation and as part of it I played “Bridge Over Troubled Water” by Simon and Garfunkel. When I sat down Jen said to me, “That song was really pretty,” to which I replied, “As are you, fairest maiden.” Kidding. I said, “Yeah. So pretty.”

Flying high on the fact that Jen liked “Bridge Over Troubled Water,” I decided to make her a Simon and Garfunkel mix tape. Folk rock from the 60’s was what all the cool kids listened to in 1993. I’m not sure what my game plan was, exactly. She’d hear “Homeward Bound” and want to go to Homecoming with me? She’d listen to “At The Zoo” and want to go to Hogle Zoo with me? I really don’t know. But my heart breaks a little bit at my sincerity and naivete as I picture me handing the tape to her and saying, “Hey, here’s a mix tape.” Jen was actually pretty gracious as she accepted the tape, although it didn’t induce her to ask me to go to Homecoming or Hogle Zoo. Our class ended along with the school year and we went our seperate ways, I to a summer full of water ballooning, prank calls, and hand fishing, she to three months of parties and dates and boys.

One day during the summer my Mom sent me to Mervyn’s to buy myself some new underwear. I went with some trepidation, as this was the first time I’d ever bought my own underwear. Still, I figured it was probably time for me to take this momentous step. I was further motivated by the realization that this was my chance to switch from tighty whities, which was what little kids wore, to boxers, which was what the cool kids wore. Once there, though, I found myself daunted as I faced the entire Mervyn’s underwear department by myself, and I decided that now wasn’t the time to be getting fancy. I headed towards the tighty whities, and as I did I heard someone call out my name. Jen. Turns out she had a summer job working at Mervyn’s. In the men’s underwear department.

“Oh, hey, Jen. How are you?” (I reached in my pocket to see if I’d grabbed the keys that had a little Swiss Army knife on them so I could commit seppuku on the floor at Mervyn’s.)

“Good. What are you up to?”

“Oh, just grabbing some stuff.” (Some underwear. Some little boy underwear.)

“Ah. Well, do you need help finding anything?” (Yes. I need some help buying underwear for the first time. Would you, Jen, one of the prettiest and most popular girls I know, mind helping me? Maybe I could even try on a few pairs for you while we listen to my Simon and Garfunkel mix tape? Tell me about the elastic band on these Hanes. Do they tend to be durable?)

“Oh, no, I found what I needed.” (It’s over there at Gart Brothers Sporting Goods. It’s a shotgun. For my face.)

I was desperate to get rid of her, so I glanced at the underwear on the rack, and figuring that underwear with an elastic band was essentially one size fits all, I grabbed a few packages of the nearest tighty whities and began to bolt to the other end of the store. Jen stopped me in my tracks, saying, “Hey, I can ring you up for those.” As I review these events from the remove of time, I am forced to conclude that Jen was either 1. Incredibly sweet, helpful and a little oblivious or 2. A sadistic monster. Either way, I was forced to walk with her to the register, my arms full of tighty whities and my heart brimming with shame.

We made casual conversation while she rang me up for my wares, and then I headed to the roof of Mervyn’s and jumped off. It’s only two stories, though, so I lived. I proceeded home and unwrapped my new underwear; as I unfolded it I noticed that it simply kept unfolding and unfolding. And unfolding. I don’t remember the exact size, but I think it was in the mid-40s. I believe I was at that time around a size 32. Because they were already open, I put a pair on just to see how they felt. To my surprise, I rather liked them. Not as much as I would have liked Jen not seeing me buy size 46 tighty whities, but still, I liked them.

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3 Responses to The Boxer(s)

  1. craftyashley says:

    As far as she was concerned, you could have been buying undies for your father…. although that might not be better. Nevermind. I’m sure Jen was completely oblivious. And most certainly doesn’t remember you as the kid who bought gigantic elastic waisted tighty whities. Maybe avoid her at the class reunion, though.

  2. Christian says:

    Oh, this is my bad. I forgot to tell you all that Davis didn’t take the last 2 weeks of December off like Ryan and I, so he needs a break from all the posting.


    “Great job, Davis, we’re really proud of you!”

  3. Jeremy says:

    This is good stuff. As I was reading through this post, it reminded me of an experience that happened to me in junior high. At the end of 7th grade I gave the crush of my life, Courtney, a love letter to end all love letters. My mother even encouraged me to write it saying Courtney would appreciate my honesty. Of course I didn’t hear from her during the summer and 8th & 9th grade progressed as if the letter didn’t exist. Honestly I was relieved she didn’t ever bring it up. But towards the end of 9th grade, Courtney’s then boyfriend was teasing me in class and starting quoting lines from the letter to the whole class. I was horrified and ran out of the room and all the way home. I cried myself to sleep in my pillow with my mom trying to console me. When I woke up later that evening after having resolved to never show my face in that school again, there came a knock to our door. It was Courtney. She looked as gorgeous as ever but I wasn’t really in the mood to say or do anything nice. She apologized for what had happened in class and said she felt awful that her boyfriend had read the letter and said those things. She still wanted to be my friend and even kissed me on the cheek. I was still suffering inside but her kiss washed most of the hurt away. Her boyfriend apologized to me the next day and as time passed it was mostly forgotten. However, even through high school, quotes and lines from that love letter would surface from time to time as it became somewhat legendary in the halls of Murray High School whenever a love letter reference was made. I have to say looking back that I’m proud of myself for having to the guts to write it, even if most of those words were better left in my head! BTW – she still has the letter to this day. She may have grown up and married the douche-bag that was teasing me that day in 9th grade, but she still has my 7th grade love letter! Boo-Yah!

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